“Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought her back”
A few years ago, while pulling into a Whole Foods parking lot, I realized why I don’t normally accept the mainstream thing right from the start. I don’t accept the mainstream because it forces me to look at the question at hand. I don’t accept the mainstream because it forces me to be curious, look at all angles, ask myself intimate questions and decide upon appropriate action. Sometimes, I decide to go with the mainstream flow, and sometimes I find a side channel that better suits me ( okay, a lot of times). But, the point is, that initial refusal is met with questions from me to me.
When I coached my very first practice client I left over the moon. When coaching, my authentic curiosity is used on purpose by my client. They want me to ask powerful questions! It’s such an awesome fit. Because, sometimes out in the wide open world- people don’t want you to wonder “how come”.
This week’s Saturday morning check in is just that. As you look back over last week you will realize you made a million in the moment decisions. You will probably remember the ones you “didn’t like” more than the ones you did. Look back, pick a few, and ask yourself “how come”.
How come I didn’t want to go to Martha’s dinner party?
How come I decided on that place to sit?
How come my child’s behavior was irritating me?
How come I felt anxious at Costco? ( I know but this one, man! I’ve asked myself many times)
How come I wanted to go to that party?
How come I wanted to leave early?
How come I refused that chocolate cake?
How come I ate that brownie?
Sounds daunting? Don’t have time for that? Worried about what you’ll find?
You don’t have to change you behaviors, you don’t have to change your actions, and you don’t have to do it all the time. But a little digging every now and then (especially when we intuitively know we are bypassing) will let you know yourself better. You may find you didn’t want to go to Martha’s party because she throws such great ones, and you wish you did too. That’s about you, not Martha. That information is special and worth knowing.